Condition for Fulfilling Right of Parents
Question:
"Allah has cursed those parents who (by their behavior) compel their children to disobey them.”
I found this on Wikipedia. It was said that if parents neglect the rights of their children than their children are not too be expected to fulfill rights of parents. Which sounds logical as Islam allows to treat people the way they have treated us. Although forgiveness is the best response.
Answer:
Even if we narrate a hadith from a relatively reliable book like Bukhari, we should still remain cautious and say 'it is reported' or 'Bukhari has reported'. I really cannot understand how one dares to simply write 'the prophet - pbuh - said ...', unless one was there when the prophet (pbuh) assumingly said that!
I am not aware of this hadith. If you happen to find the original source let me know and I will analyse it in terms of authenticity.
You quoted:
"if parents neglect the rights of their children then their children are not too be expected to fulfill rights of parents"
Based on verses 31:14 and 46:15, the very fact that the mother gives birth to the child is enough to give her rights with regard to the child. It is interesting that at the start of the above two verses we are advised to be kind to both father and mother, although then only the sacrifice of the mother is mentioned. This indicates that being father and mother, is enough to give them rights on their child. These rights will not perish if the parents do not fulfill their child's rights. However the better they fulfill the child's right, the deeper will be the right of them on the child. So it is not Zero or One, it is One or More than One.
If it was the case that only if parents were fulfilling our rights we should fulfill theirs, then this was not 'ihsan' (being good) to them. This was simply returning back a favour, like a business. The fact is, we need to be kind to any human being. However when we are specifically advised to be kind to some one (parents, neighbors, teacher, etc.) that means to be kind to them, even if they are not kind to us.
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August 2015
"Allah has cursed those parents who (by their behavior) compel their children to disobey them.”
I found this on Wikipedia. It was said that if parents neglect the rights of their children than their children are not too be expected to fulfill rights of parents. Which sounds logical as Islam allows to treat people the way they have treated us. Although forgiveness is the best response.
Answer:
Even if we narrate a hadith from a relatively reliable book like Bukhari, we should still remain cautious and say 'it is reported' or 'Bukhari has reported'. I really cannot understand how one dares to simply write 'the prophet - pbuh - said ...', unless one was there when the prophet (pbuh) assumingly said that!
I am not aware of this hadith. If you happen to find the original source let me know and I will analyse it in terms of authenticity.
You quoted:
"if parents neglect the rights of their children then their children are not too be expected to fulfill rights of parents"
Based on verses 31:14 and 46:15, the very fact that the mother gives birth to the child is enough to give her rights with regard to the child. It is interesting that at the start of the above two verses we are advised to be kind to both father and mother, although then only the sacrifice of the mother is mentioned. This indicates that being father and mother, is enough to give them rights on their child. These rights will not perish if the parents do not fulfill their child's rights. However the better they fulfill the child's right, the deeper will be the right of them on the child. So it is not Zero or One, it is One or More than One.
If it was the case that only if parents were fulfilling our rights we should fulfill theirs, then this was not 'ihsan' (being good) to them. This was simply returning back a favour, like a business. The fact is, we need to be kind to any human being. However when we are specifically advised to be kind to some one (parents, neighbors, teacher, etc.) that means to be kind to them, even if they are not kind to us.
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August 2015
