Do You Think This Is a Form of Azaab?
Question:
I am a student of a Master degree. Before taking admission in masters, I was working at a school as a teacher. I signed the contract for a year there but due to difficulties in my studies later I couldn't finish the contract and left my job only to pursue my studies. A few days back, my ex employer has filed a case against me in the court for breach of contract. This is badly affecting my studies and is a cause of a lot of stress to my father who is a hard working honest man. In another note, my father was against my decision to work and study at the same time. He explicitly told me not to study while I was working but I thought it'd be too late to start masters then. I'm in a mess as I'm constantly being pressurized by my family for disobeying and also, not sure whether I'll win the case or not. The plaintiff has asked to cover financial losses which my father can not afford. Please suggest what should be done in such a circumstance? Do you think this is wrath of Allah for not obeying my father? Best regards and thanks for your patience.
Answer:
Obviously I cannot provide any solutions to the problem. You need to deal with it in the way that you deem to be the most suitable. Maybe paying by installments can be an option, or to agree and sign (and maybe giving them some sort of tangible guarantee) that you will work for the employer twice the period of your studies after finishing your MSc.
However from religious point of view, you need to separate two things, these are obeying your father, and breaking a contract.
As for obeying your father, as an adult you do not need to obey your father in matters that relate to your own personal life. We often think that the advice of the Qur’an about being good to parents means that we need to obey them in everything. This is not true. The actual advice is to do good things for them, be always humble towards them and never to disrespect them. Of course one way of doing all this is to obey their wishes, however this has to be within reason. On the matters that are life changing situations, like marriage, wok, education, we have to do what we think is the best option simply because only we can remain responsible for the outcome of our actions and d. I can therefore say that the difficulty you are facing should not be interpreted as wrath of God for not obeying your father.
As for breaking the contract, this is a serious matter. You should not break any contracts and if you have to break it then you need to be prepared to pay the cost. What you are facing is simply the consequences of breaking a contract. You need to face this with honesty and integrity, appreciation that it was you who broke it and being determined to settle it (yourself) in any possible way.
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May 2013
I am a student of a Master degree. Before taking admission in masters, I was working at a school as a teacher. I signed the contract for a year there but due to difficulties in my studies later I couldn't finish the contract and left my job only to pursue my studies. A few days back, my ex employer has filed a case against me in the court for breach of contract. This is badly affecting my studies and is a cause of a lot of stress to my father who is a hard working honest man. In another note, my father was against my decision to work and study at the same time. He explicitly told me not to study while I was working but I thought it'd be too late to start masters then. I'm in a mess as I'm constantly being pressurized by my family for disobeying and also, not sure whether I'll win the case or not. The plaintiff has asked to cover financial losses which my father can not afford. Please suggest what should be done in such a circumstance? Do you think this is wrath of Allah for not obeying my father? Best regards and thanks for your patience.
Answer:
Obviously I cannot provide any solutions to the problem. You need to deal with it in the way that you deem to be the most suitable. Maybe paying by installments can be an option, or to agree and sign (and maybe giving them some sort of tangible guarantee) that you will work for the employer twice the period of your studies after finishing your MSc.
However from religious point of view, you need to separate two things, these are obeying your father, and breaking a contract.
As for obeying your father, as an adult you do not need to obey your father in matters that relate to your own personal life. We often think that the advice of the Qur’an about being good to parents means that we need to obey them in everything. This is not true. The actual advice is to do good things for them, be always humble towards them and never to disrespect them. Of course one way of doing all this is to obey their wishes, however this has to be within reason. On the matters that are life changing situations, like marriage, wok, education, we have to do what we think is the best option simply because only we can remain responsible for the outcome of our actions and d. I can therefore say that the difficulty you are facing should not be interpreted as wrath of God for not obeying your father.
As for breaking the contract, this is a serious matter. You should not break any contracts and if you have to break it then you need to be prepared to pay the cost. What you are facing is simply the consequences of breaking a contract. You need to face this with honesty and integrity, appreciation that it was you who broke it and being determined to settle it (yourself) in any possible way.
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May 2013
